What does the Bible say about abusive husbands?
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The Bible condemns a husband’s cruelty and calls him to love, honor, and protect his wife as one made in God’s image. Colossians 3:19 forbids harshness, and 1 Peter 3:7 commands husbands to live with their wives in understanding and show them honor. Ephesians 5:25-29 presents Christ’s self-giving love for the church as the pattern for marriage, utterly opposed to intimidation, violence, or control. Proverbs 15:1 commends gentle speech, while Proverbs 22:10 recognizes that destructive conflict must be confronted. Marriage is to be honored and guarded from sexual sin and betrayal (Hebrews 13:4). A wife suffering abuse should seek safety, wise pastoral care, and help from lawful authorities; she is not required to enable sin or remain in immediate danger.
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- Colossians 3:19 4 votes
Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them.
- 1 Peter 3:7 4 votes
You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman as to the weaker vessel, as also being joint heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
- Hebrews 13:4 3 votes
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.
- Proverbs 22:10 3 votes
Drive out the mocker, and strife will go out; yes, quarrels and insults will stop.
- Proverbs 15:1 3 votes
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
- 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 3 votes
But to the rest I—not the Lord—say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her. The woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave her husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
- Ephesians 5:25-29 3 votes
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without defect. Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly,
- 1 Corinthians 7:15 2 votes
Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace.
- Ephesians 5:25 2 votes
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her,
- Mark 10:2-12 2 votes
Pharisees came to him testing him, and asked him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a certificate of divorce to be written, and to divorce her.” But Jesus said to them, “For your hardness of heart, he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will join to his wife, and the two will become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” In the house, his disciples asked him again about the same matter. He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. If a woman herself divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
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