What does the Bible say about girlfriend before marriage?

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The Bible encourages romantic relationships to be guided by holy love, wisdom, self-control, and a clear purpose of honoring God rather than pursuing selfish desire. Genesis 2:24 presents marriage as the covenant union in which a man and woman become one flesh, while Hebrews 13:4 calls believers to honor marriage and sexual purity. First Corinthians 13:1-13 describes love as patient, kind, truthful, enduring, and self-giving, not merely emotional attraction. First John 4:1-21 teaches that genuine love flows from God and is tested by truth and obedience. Proverbs 19:2-17 and 20:5-11 commend careful discernment, integrity, and seeking wise counsel. Christians should therefore date with prayerful seriousness, treating one another as neighbors to serve and protect in Christ.

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  • 1 Corinthians 13:1-13

    [1] If I speak with the languages of men and of angels, but don't have love, I have become sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal. [2] If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but don't have love, I am nothing. [3] If I dole out all my goods to feed the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but don't have love, it profits me nothing. [4] Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud, [5] doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; [6] doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; [7] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. [8] Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will be done away with. Where there are various languages, they will cease. Where there is knowledge, it will be done away with. [9] For we know in part, and we prophesy in part; [10] but when that which is complete has come, then that which is partial will be done away with. [11] When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things. [12] For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, even as I was also fully known. [13] But now faith, hope, and love remain--these three. The greatest of these is love.

  • Hebrews 13:4

    Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.

  • 1 John 4:1-21

    [1] Beloved, don't believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. [2] By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit who confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is of God, [3] and every spirit who doesn't confess that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is not of God, and this is the spirit of the antichrist, of whom you have heard that it comes. Now it is in the world already. [4] You are of God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world. [5] They are of the world. Therefore they speak of the world, and the world hears them. [6] We are of God. He who knows God listens to us. He who is not of God doesn't listen to us. By this we know the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error. [7] Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God, and knows God. [8] He who doesn't love doesn't know God, for God is love. [9] By this was God's love revealed in us, that God has sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. [10] In this is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son as the atoning sacrifice for our sins. [11] Beloved, if God loved us in this way, we also ought to love one another. [12] No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God remains in us, and his love has been perfected in us. [13] By this we know that we remain in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. [14] We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son as the Savior of the world. [15] Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God remains in him, and he in God. [16] We know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and he who remains in love remains in God, and God remains in him. [17] In this love has been made perfect among us, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment, because as he is, even so are we in this world. [18] There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has punishment. He who fears is not made perfect in love. [19] We love Him, because he first loved us. [20] If a man says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who doesn't love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? [21] This commandment we have from him, that he who loves God should also love his brother.

  • Proverbs 19:2-17

    [2] It isn't good to have zeal without knowledge; Nor being hasty with one's feet and missing the way. [3] The foolishness of man subverts his way; His heart rages against Yahweh. [4] Wealth adds many friends, But the poor is separated from his friend. [5] A false witness shall not be unpunished. He who pours out lies shall not go free. [6] Many will entreat the favor of a ruler, And everyone is a friend to a man who gives gifts. [7] All the relatives of the poor shun him: How much more do his friends avoid him! He pursues them with pleas, but they are gone. [8] He who gets wisdom loves his own soul. He who keeps understanding shall find good. [9] A false witness shall not be unpunished. He who utters lies shall perish. [10] Delicate living is not appropriate for a fool, Much less for a servant to have rule over princes. [11] The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger. It is his glory to overlook an offense. [12] The king's wrath is like the roaring of a lion, But his favor is like dew on the grass. [13] A foolish son is the calamity of his father. A wife's quarrels are a continual dripping. [14] House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from Yahweh. [15] Slothfulness casts into a deep sleep. The idle soul shall suffer hunger. [16] He who keeps the commandment keeps his soul, But he who is contemptuous in his ways shall die. [17] He who has pity on the poor lends to Yahweh; He will reward him.

  • 1 Corinthians 13:7

    bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

  • Genesis 2:24

    Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh.

  • Proverbs 20:5-11

    [5] Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; But a man of understanding will draw it out. [6] Many men claim to be men of unfailing love, But who can find a faithful man? [7] A righteous man walks in integrity. Blessed are his children after him. [8] A king who sits on the throne of judgment Scatters away all evil with his eyes. [9] Who can say, "I have made my heart pure. I am clean and without sin?" [10] Differing weights and differing measures, Both of them alike are an abomination to Yahweh. [11] Even a child makes himself known by his doings, Whether his work is pure, and whether it is right.

  • Romans 5:8

    But God commends his own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

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