What does the Bible say about in-laws?

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The Bible teaches that marriage creates a new covenant household under God, calling spouses and their families to pursue love, honor, wisdom, peace, and godly boundaries. Genesis 2:24-25 and Matthew 19:4-6 show that husband and wife are joined as one flesh, with their union taking priority as a distinct household. Ephesians 5:23-33 calls spouses to Christlike, sacrificial love and respect, which should shape relationships with extended family as well. Ruth 1:1-22 portrays remarkable covenant kindness between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Scripture also warns against harsh speech, judgment, selfishness, and uncontrolled anger in family relationships, urging humble, gracious conduct before the Lord.

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  • Matthew 19:4-6

    [4] He answered, "Haven't you read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, [5] and said, 'For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?' [6] So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don't let man tear apart."

  • Proverbs 29:11

    A fool vents all of his anger, But a wise man brings himself under control.

  • Ruth 1:1-22

    [1] It happened in the days when the judges judged, that there was a famine in the land. A certain man of Bethlehem Judah went to sojourn in the country of Moab, he, and his wife, and his two sons. [2] The name of the man was Elimelech, and the name of his wife Naomi, and the name of his two sons Mahlon and Chilion, Ephrathites of Bethlehem Judah. They came into the country of Moab, and continued there. [3] Elimelech, Naomi's husband, died; and she was left, and her two sons. [4] They took them wives of the women of Moab; the name of the one was Orpah, and the name of the other Ruth: and they lived there about ten years. [5] Mahlon and Chilion died both of them; and the woman was left of her two children and of her husband. [6] Then she arose with her daughters-in-law, that she might return from the country of Moab: for she had heard in the country of Moab how that Yahweh had visited his people in giving them bread. [7] She went forth out of the place where she was, and her two daughters-in-law with her; and they went on the way to return to the land of Judah. [8] Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, Go, return each of you to her mother's house: Yahweh deal kindly with you, as you have dealt with the dead, and with me. [9] Yahweh grant you that you may find rest, each of you in the house of her husband. Then she kissed them, and they lifted up their voice, and wept. [10] They said to her, No, but we will return with you to your people. [11] Naomi said, Turn again, my daughters: why will you go with me? have I yet sons in my womb, that they may be your husbands? [12] Turn again, my daughters, go your way; for I am too old to have a husband. If I should say, I have hope, if I should even have a husband tonight, and should also bear sons; [13] would you therefore wait until they were grown? would you therefore stay from having husbands? nay, my daughters, for it grieves me much for your sakes, for the hand of Yahweh is gone forth against me. [14] They lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother-in-law, but Ruth joined with her. [15] She said, Behold, your sister-in-law is gone back to her people, and to her god: return you after your sister-in-law. [16] Ruth said, "Don't entreat me to leave you, and to return from following after you, for where you go, I will go; and where you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God; [17] where you die, will I die, and there will I be buried: Yahweh do so to me, and more also, if anything but death part you and me." [18] When she saw that she was steadfastly minded to go with her, she left off speaking to her. [19] So they two went until they came to Bethlehem. It happened, when they were come to Bethlehem, that all the city was moved about them, and [the women] said, Is this Naomi? [20] She said to them, "Don't call me Naomi, call me Mara; for the Almighty has dealt very bitterly with me. [21] I went out full, and Yahweh has brought me home again empty; why do you call me Naomi, seeing Yahweh has testified against me, and the Almighty has afflicted me?" [22] So Naomi returned, and Ruth the Moabitess, her daughter-in-law, with her, who returned out of the country of Moab: and they came to Bethlehem in the beginning of barley harvest.

  • Proverbs 23:6-8

    [6] Don't eat the food of him who has a stingy eye, And don't crave his delicacies: [7] For as he thinks about the cost, so he is. "Eat and drink!" he says to you, But his heart is not with you. [8] The morsel which you have eaten you shall vomit up, And lose your good words.

  • Proverbs 16:31

    Gray hair is a crown of glory. It is attained by a life of righteousness.

  • Genesis 2:18

    Yahweh God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

  • Ephesians 5:23-33

    [23] For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. [24] But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. [25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; [26] that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, [27] that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. [28] Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. [29] For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly; [30] because we are members of his body, of his flesh and bones. [31] "For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh." [32] This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly. [33] Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

  • Genesis 2:24-25

    [24] Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh. [25] They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

  • James 4:11-12

    [11] Don't speak against one another, brothers. He who speaks against a brother and judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law, but a judge. [12] Only one is the lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge another?

  • Genesis 1:28

    God blessed them. God said to them, "Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth, and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on the earth."

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